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# How far are y'all going?
- URL: https://www.peterkos.org/how-far-are-yall-going/
- Published: 2021-03-28T16:47:00.000Z
- Updated: 2021-03-28T16:46:59.000Z
- Author: Peter Kos
- Tags: The Elements of Lifestyle, .books

> "How far are y'all going?" Ruby asked us with a sigh.  
> "We're going all the way 'til the wheels fall off and burn."  
> —Bob Dylan, Brownsville Girl

The Foreword really sets the pace for what[ The Elements of Lifestyle](https://amzn.to/3lYAE5q?ref=peterkos.org) is really about — finding your *enough*. It's what works for me; I'm writing from experience, not from academic research. This was the book I had to get out. It wasn't written for the market, for the reader — it was written to save me from my [Resistance](https://www.peterkos.org/the-war-of-art-by-steven-pressfield/). Once I was done, I finished with a sigh of relief. 

## Excerpts from the Foreword:

> **Most people struggle with the same things — self-image, career, relationships, finances.** There are simple solutions to each of these areas, yet they are complicated. Everything is intertwined, and you have to find a certain equilibrium for yourself.

> You have to **be joyous and content with yourself**, comfortable in your skin, or else you’ll never find joy. You have to question everything and be tough on yourself, **but only up to a certain point. It’s the magic of *[enough](https://www.peterkos.org/the-elements-of-lifestyle-find-your-enough/)***. If you go beyond your *enough,* you risk falling off the cliff, destroying everything you’ve built.

> **You never win at life**, you only get to enjoy it, and then you die. It’s made out of millions of little things, not just a few big ones. Don’t sacrifice your happiness for some distant goal, nor sacrifice your future happiness for short-term instant-gratification. It’s a gift that you get to experience life and find out your joy, happiness, and *enough*.

> Don’t ever fear of reinventing yourself. Don’t stay somebody just because that’s what others expect. **People hate change**, and people hate when others change, **especially if it’s for the better**. Don’t expect sympathy and support.

> Find joy in pursuing **the best version of yourself** every day, ignoring that **most of the world is miserable** because they don’t want to choose this path.